Trusting God With My Family



A little over a year ago I was trying to make a decision about whether or not I should pursue an opportunity. There were many good things about it, but there was one major drawback – it would mean that I would have less time to spend with my kids. As I pondered the decision, the reminder of how quickly time flies was at the forefront of my mind.

Would my children look back and regret that there were moments I didn’t get to share with them? Would I look back and have the same wishful thinking?

Would my children still get adequate instruction in the way that “Team Winter” thinks and behaves? What new influences would I be opening up to them?

What milestones would I miss? What memories would I forego? 

In sum – Would they be o.k?

As I wrestled with the decision – something became perfectly clear.

I was focused on the impact on my kids – what I needed to consider was the impact on my walk with Christ. 

This wasn’t to say that my kids weren’t a consideration. Since God has given me the privilege of being a mother and called me to that ministry, part of being a good steward of what He has entrusted to me is thinking through what would be best for them. But what I failed to remember in those initial moments is that God wasn’t going to call me to something that would be detrimental to them. Therefore putting my children at the forefront of my thinking wasn’t wise. God needed to come first and I needed to trust that as much as I love my kids – He loves them more. And He is not going to direct me down a path that would be harmful to them.

This is a difficult lesson to learn. Perhaps the challenge is especially steep for moms because God has created us to be nurturers in our families and we consider it our job to make sure “everyone is o.k.” It is also difficult because there may be some decisions where two godly people could come to different conclusions. In areas where there is not a clear issue of holiness and sin, God doesn’t call everyone to the same thing. But He does call all people to follow Him. And as His followers seek Him and follow His directions, we can have confidence that what He has planned is for His glory and our good.

And when it comes to being a parent, what He will use for our good will be for the good of our kids as well.

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I always say that one of the hardest things about teaching is forgetting what it is like not to know something. In order to explain a concept or theory you have to be cognizant of the other person’s baseline knowledge. When an idea becomes familiar to you, it can be a challenge to remember what it is like for it to be unfamiliar. Teaching requires that you try to remember.

The same is true when it comes to teaching our kids. And one of the most joyous things that a parent can do is to teach their child about God. In doing so we may be surprised that we can learn a few things ourselves!

For example, recently one of my kids memorized Mark 16:15 which states

Go into all the world and proclaim the gospel to the whole creation

Thinking I was being on top of it, I explained to her that “the Gospel” meant the good news that Christ died for our sins.

“What does proclaim mean?” she quickly asked.

I stopped in my tracks. 

“Well it means to shout, to make known, to boldly share.” I stated.

And my daughter, satisfied with my explanation, continued what she was doing.

However the conversation stuck with me. So often we talk of “sharing” the Gospel, which is good, but has a unobtrusive tone to it. It seems to indicate that we tell people the good news of Jesus’ sacrifice when they are wanting to hear it. “Proclaim” on the other hand is courageous. It doesn’t wait for someone to ask; it is regularly and eagerly making the good news known.

And I had to ask myself – “is that what I’m doing?”

Am I regularly telling people about Christ with boldness?

Am I making Him known in my words and deeds?

Am I willing to loudly share what He has done for me?  

Or am I too busy being unobtrusive that I don’t have any time to “proclaim”?

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